Aunt Mzansi replies: Your husband might be feeling emasculated of his position, not surprising because he is failing to be the man in the relationship. He should have taken charge when he saw this from the onset. Feeling guilty and useless can drive someone to engage in such degrading insults. But I also wonder if he has never contributed anything in the household. I hear you taking the credit and I wonder if both of you have ever worked as a couple towards your goals or everyone does whatever seems fit. Maybe he also feels unappreciated and unrecognised for his little contribution.