Okay, I’m in a situation and need some advice please.
I’ve been married for 6 years.My wife is 44, I’m 55, and my step daughter is 23.Marriage with my wife isn’t perfect, we have our ups and downs.At the same time, my step daughter and I have sort of a love/hate relationship.
When I tell her to do something she would blow me off.We would snap at each other.Trying to have a normal conversation with her is like pulling teeth because she didn’t show any interest.For the most part she would ignore me.Even the few times we’d hug each other it didn’t feel genuine.I figure it was just teen rebellion, and the fact that I wasn’t her real dad, who she really didn’t know well.
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But there were good times too.I helped with her homework.I taught her how to drive.Gave her pointers about guys and dating.Played pranks on each other.I supported her at times when she and her mom were at odds.I was there for her when she needed me.But it was like she only knew me when she needed me for something.After that it was back to giving me the cold shoulder and distancing herself.I wanted to be more involved in her life, but I guess she wanted her space.
But lately she’s changed.A few weeks ago she started wearing these short, tight sleeping outfits and ask me how she looked in them.She would give me these long hugs and kisses on the cheek and ask how my day was.She would try on different perfumes and get me to smell her neck.And just the other day I was watching TV in the living room, and my wife was at an appointment.And my step daughter comes in the living room wearing one of those short outfits and actually sat down on my lap, and she gave me one of those long hugs and kissed me on the cheek.And she said something like “why don’t me and you have fun like you do with my mom” or something like that.I couldn’t help but feel she was referring to s.ex, and it was exciting me, but I was also scared and didn’t know how to react.I just told her I didn’t feel well and she went back to her room.
Yes I admit she’s an attractive young woman.But I just don’t understand her change in behavior.Have any stepdads out there experienced this, where your step daughter is cold towards you at first, and suddenly she’s all over you? Maybe there’s a step daughter out there who’s been through this as well?